Finding Happiness

        How are you? How is your life now? Are you enjoying life now than before? These are few questions you may ask yourself, some sort of a  personal post-evaluation. There have been an indefinite changes in my life, some were good and some just instantly  happen without any tough reasons. I think its quite healthy at least once in a while to re-assess, to re-calibrate our directions and see if things are going the way we want them to be. How? Try asking yourself first, are you "HAPPY"? HAPPINESS - If you're going to search the internet about "how to be happy", you'll surely find numerous and countless results, like those "7 steps on how", "9 steps to be more", "10 instant keys to be" or some "20 simple ways". though internet is quite an unorthodox way in search for your happiness. (honestly i tried it several times,geeez) Literally, happiness comes in various rarities and some in particular package or sometimes we simply can't see or appreciate it whilst happiness is already inside ourselves lurking through the empty cell of sadness finding its way to your darkness and deploying itself as it extract the seed of delightfulness and joy providing rich crop towards a wealthy harvest of peace and harmony in every individual. But still we can't appreciate its existence. Why? Happiness is a choice. Simply if you choose to be happy you'll be happy, if you choose to smile you'll laugh. Our mind has the power to greatly achieve anything it desires.

These are several and personal thoughts how i define and want to define happiness:

Pay it Forward. I was really inspired by this movie. (must watch) So i said to myself, i think there is nothing wrong using the same idea. If someone grant you a favor you will definitely pay that favor back to him, right? but this time we'll pay HAPPINESS, "forward", instead of paying it back. We'll escape from the conventional "you make me happy so i will make you happy too" tenet. I think its worth trying, quite eccentric but its guaranteed fulfilling if you succeed.

Guaranty your Satisfaction. Be honest to yourself. We can "always" easily say, "yes i'm cool with that", "yes its fine like that", "yes i'm ok", but you are not. Sometimes we tend to say these things just to please other people, which is wrong. We shouldn't change ourselves for their sake. Please yourself first. It may sound selfish but bringing out the prime and the most in you makes you inimitable. Its when you show the real rainbows in you where you will be accepted for your goodness, uniqueness and simply just the way you are.

Give up on some things. If there is no reason to fight, give up. If there is no affection in love, give up. If things are becoming complicated, give up. If there is no definition, give up. If its already affecting your health, give up. There is absolutely nothing wrong accepting defeat. Accepting loss. Accepting grief. Such simple way, but the most heart-disintegrating experience. A sure fire memory marker that is vestige in our soul's surface. Yet we have to give in sometimes no matter and how much these things makes you ecstatic. Nothing is permanent. Even your deepest emotion is not permanent. Let go of the things that are holding you back because our time is so critical. We can't waste our time figuring out every little details in life. Let go,give up and stop asking questions that are impossible to answer. The more we dig deeper in to some conclusions the more complicated life can be. Let these baffles in our mind create an expedient and meaningful cohesive guidance towards our self mental and physical development. Learn from these fumbles.

 

Destination is not  Always Happiness. Its not how you reach rather its about how you enjoy the path before you reach. Its always good when we have our own goals in life, dreams to fulfill and plans for the future. Definitely if your a man with a mission or a man filled with raging ideas, these dreams, goals and plans are so essential to you. They are your directions. They will move your life. Why am i saying these? i have plans, i have dreams and goals to score, but some of them haven't happen yet, well in the right time i'm sure. I have reached some destinations but few to mention. Some of my plans are still being drawn into the paper, some are being erased and edited before executing. I have dreams, i have already focused my eyes on them but sometimes my sights are getting hazy. Not that i don't have a clear idea of what i really want in life or some would say "you're not yet man enough to stand for any decisions", but changes are inevitable. I can change, you can change, path and directions may change so likely your plans and goals might change as well. So i suggest to stick to the present path. Whatever path you have right now is the only path you should enrich. You have to focus on this path, and never forget to have fun along the path. I can't go beyond these whole repertoire of incessant rounds of hypothesis. These are few of life's infinite intuitions. They are nothing new. They have existed before the existence of the existent exist. All am saying is try to enjoy the journey before you reach the destination, who knows we might not even reach our destination but at least we experience vast and perpetual happiness along the way. Have fun.

Cry for sadness Smile for Happiness.  There is a perfect time for everything. Never hold back if your time is flourishing at the moment because that is the perfect arrival of a given chance and you may never see or even glimpse a piece of it someday. Happy moments happens on perfect time, if there's no sign of stopping then don't stop enjoy until it lasts. There's a time for grief, there is a time for sorrow, there is time for tears and when you feel like crying and bursting into tears, cry, because that is the perfect moment for grieving. That is the perfect time for wiping our tears. Act accordingly. We are sensitive being or social creatures, what others do affect us. Our feelings and emotions are well affixed to our humanness . Cry if you feel like crying and dance if you like moving.

STOP looking for happiness. Yes it is on the internet. It could be on your facebook, on your twitter etc.. Maybe its on your new clothes or inside your new shoes. Maybe it is on your mobile phone, maybe it is installed on your applications. Maybe its on your laptop, or your ipad, or your ipod. Maybe its on your new Beats Headphone. Maybe its on your SLR camera?. These can give us happiness. All these things. All these stuffs, but what if you're getting some harsh insulting post to your facebook? Or getting bad feeds on your twitter? What if your new clothes and shoes started to fade out? What if your laptop overheated and explode? What if your apple gadgets were faced out? What if Beats headphones become promotional items and are included in every single gadgets?

These are material things we want in life. They give us "temporary" happiness. These are priced possession. Price, which means money is immensely involve. "MONEY". Money can give you everything you want, specifically material things. Money is vital, we use it in able to sustain our daily needs of foods and water and shelter and so on. Therefore having lots of money means tons of happiness. YES!, but only for a while, temporal as i said. So money is not the answer for us to be happy. Happiness is already inside us, in our heart in our mind and in to our soul. Into our family, brothers and sisters, to our children and nephews, What they share and offer is already happiness, their presence and smiles are perfectly handcrafted to deliver a fresh inspiration we need to survive our daily struggle. They are priceless, they come in handy. 

And they are the best things you could have in your life. Family, Loved ones and friends. Ones you have them, you'll definitely stop looking in the internet. :)

Eat, Drink and Learn. This is my aphorism in life. Always try to feel your food, as much as possible eat slowly. Remember food only taste good in your mouth and when it goes down its entirely a different story. Drink but not to the point where you'll get drunk (sometimes yes) ;) and do these all with gladness, with passion and joy in your heart. Learn from every single experience in your life. They are your definition.

These are not steps on how to be happy. These are some of my personal thoughts. Life is a constant struggle, they come in various indefinite proportion. We don't even know what life has to offer, countless uncertainties, numerous complications. But asking yourself why my life is like this is a complete waste of time. Achieving perpetual happiness lies in every individual. Follow your path, be at your passion, share what you can offer, be good and avoid hurting people.   

I don't even know if tomorrows coming. But i am always thankful every single day.

Happiness is having fun and enjoying every given chance of living your present. We all have our purpose and your purpose is living the life you have now.